I Was Told That I Was Useless

I remember listening to Dov Baron in 2006 and thinking about I would love to know as much as he did. At this point, I had already been learning about self-development for about three years, so it wasn’t as though I hadn’t come across anyone like this before.However, although I had listened to other people who spoke about self-development before, they didn’t have the same effect on me. This was someone who had all the qualifications, and he had the experiences, too.I was hooked!I listened to all of the audios that I could find of his and the eBooks that he had written. Unfortunately, the courses that he taught were a long plane journey away, so I wasn’t able to get to them.If someone had told me when I was younger, that I would be reading books and listening to these kinds of people, I would have found it hard to believe. I didn’t particularly enjoy school – I preferred to spend time outside.

It Was Always ThereWhat become clear as time went by was that even though I didn’t enjoy school, I did have the desire to learn and to expand my mind. That was, of course, as long as it related to something that actually interested me.I have always been curious, though, as I would often ask questions as a child. Yet, if did ask questions when I was younger, I was frequently criticised by my mother for doing so.A Number of FactorsI found it hard at school, incredibly hard, and I wasn’t expected to do well at school, either. The only thing that was expected of me was to help out our guest house and to behave; that was all that mattered.But even though I started to read books a number of years after I had left school and appreciated learning, it didn’t have much of an effect on how I saw myself. What I mean is that I didn’t still myself as someone who was intelligent.Verbal AbuseAnd along with being told criticised for asking questions, I was also criticised for making a mistake or not doing something as fast as my mother wanted. If I did something wrong, I would often be told that I was “useless”, and what would make this even more humiliating is that I was often told this when other guests were around.As a result of hearing this word, and other words, over a number of years, I came to accept what I was told. I then did what I could to make sure that I stayed out of the way, which meant that I would spend a lot of time by myself.One MomentI remember having a reading in 2011 or 2012, and being told that I was an ‘intellectual’. I had no idea what this meant, so I asked him and he went into some of the reasons as to why this was.

I appreciated hearing this, but it wasn’t possible for me to completely accept what I was told. If anything, I was just a pretender, and someone who saw other people as having all the answers.Inner ConflictOn one hand, then, I wanted to be seen as someone who was intelligent and capable, and, on the other, I couldn’t accept it when someone gave me positive feedback. This didn’t stop me from reading and writing, though.The wounded child within me wanted to be recognised, and this was one of the things that gave me the drive to keep going. I gradually came to see what was going on and this allowed me to work through the pain that was within me.

The Best Putter for You

What’s the best putter for you?Putting frustrates golfers, no matter what their level, more than any other element of the game. How many times have you heard a pro claiming during his post round interview that he played well but just didn’t get the putting working or that his putter was cold? I would guess it’s many, many times. No doubt it’s a crucial element of the game and if you want to improve your scores you need to putt well.So, how do you go about choosing a putter that’s right for you and your stroke?Firstly we need to understand how a putter may or may not be suitable for you. There are two basic putting strokes, straight back – straight through (SBST) and the arc, where your path is inside the line on the way back and turns gently at impact. You will need to know which of these strokes you incorporate or feel most comfortable with before hitting the pro shop.
The best way to narrow down the field in terms of models that you should be looking at is to find out which putters are face balanced and which are toe balanced. If this sounds technical, don’t worry it isn’t; simply balance the club in your fingers and see how the head lies in relation to the ground. If the face faces the sky it’s face balanced and if the toe faces the ground, it’s toe balanced. If you can’t make it to the pro shop you will be able to find out from many online sources if a particular putter that suits your eye is one or the other via a simple search.The face balanced putters are better suited to a SBST stroke and toe balanced to the arc. The weighting on the face balanced putter will not effect the path of your stroke, it’s a neutral set up that just wants to travel in a straight line. The toe balanced putter will want to close around impact. It wants to be sent on a gentle arc and the weighting helps the face to square up at impact to maximise accuracy.Now you have checked your preferred stroke and identified the type of putter that is going to fit your stroke all you have to do now is choose from a bewildering array of designs, finishes, and technology. Not to mention budgets….a putter could cost you a few pennies or several thousand if you want to go high end. Before you are suckered in by the gushing reviews of these expensive clubs, remember one thing; it’s all about getting the ball in the hole and not about flashy paint fills, tour specs and a natty headcover.
The best bet is to demo as many models as you can, there is no substitute as no other club has that special connection with a golfer than his putter. Try and get fitted if you can. The correct length and lie angle will give you every chance of being able to find a comfortable set up and posture. If you are setting up awkwardly to try and make the putter fit you, you will be much more likely to be riddled with tension, which is the enemy of a good stroke. You will be using it for over 25% of your shots after all. Surely that demands that you look carefully and patiently for the right one?